Portia Brown has been curious about sex since she was young.
She recalls how her mum gave her books about the human body and sex as a child to help her learn and since that day, she’s never stopped reading about the topic.
Fast forward to today and the 28-year-old from New York now works as a sex educator and is an ambassador for sexual wellness brand, kandid.
Portia has also been making content and offering workshops, with her most recent one focusing on ‘Orgasmic Sensual Sorcery’.
What is sensual sorcery you ask? Good question!
Speaking to Mirror Online, she explains: “Sensual sorcery is wielding the power of the divine feminine to create MAGIC!
“That magic can be the magic of an orgasm, or manifesting something else you desire.”
As well as this, she shared some advice for women who are struggling to climax – and explained how women can achieve limitless orgasms.
When asked what different types of orgasm a person can have, Portia said: “Well, it depends on what parts of the body we are talking about exactly. Some people report having orgasms from massaging parts of their bodies other than their genitals, for example ‘boobgasms’ from nipple stimulation.
“If we are talking about orgasms from all erogenous zones, the limit does not exist and it is really up to your body.
“If we are talking about vulvas, it was previously believed that there were internal orgasms (vaginal and g-spot) and external orgasms (clitoral). But it’s becoming more widely accepted that all orgasms are clitoral orgasms because we have a better understanding of the full anatomy of the clitoris.
“Lots of people report their orgasms feeling different depending on how they stimulate themselves (internally v. externally). If you find it easiest to orgasm with external stimulation, you can obviously use your hands or you can reach for a toy.
“I find toys like The Big One from Kandid to be ideal. If you want to stimulate yourself internally, something that has a bit of a curve helps, a good example would be The Ribbed One or The Smooth One from Kandid as well.”
When it comes to those who are having trouble with orgasms, Portia claims the issue begins in the mind.
“We either have a hard time focusing on the present moment, we are feeling distracted mentally, we experience body shame or some other mental obstacle. We have to learn to be mindful in life so we can be mindful in bed as well.
“Start by prioritising mindfulness (focusing on the present moment/sensations) in AND out of bed. It’s also helpful to find out how your body really works. So many of us are still trying to orgasm via penetration when there are many more effective options.
“Then move your pleasure practice away from focusing on the orgasm and more on experiencing genuine pleasure, and loads of it! Let the orgasm come to you instead of you trying to get to it.”
Another one of her top tips is to set the mood.
“Seduce yourself as well as your partner,” she says. “Do the work to shed some of your fears around pleasure. Toys can be a great help. Wand toys like The Small One from Kandid are great because they work for a lot of the population and they aren’t intimidating to you or your partner.”
She adds: “So often we become wrapped up in an end goal during sex. We think of orgasms as the destination instead of just part of our journey during sex.
“It puts a time limit on sex because we associate orgasm with the end of sex, but by doing this we miss out on so much exploration and joy.
“When we prioritize feeling pleasure instead of orgasms, we can try things we otherwise may not have!”
For more of Portia’s top tips and sex advice, you can follow her on Instagram.