When it comes to babies, you never quite know what they’re going to look like. It’s a given they’ll be cute, but will they resemble you or your partner? Who knows!
We’ve heard recently about a daughter who is frequently mistaken for being her mum’s twin sister, but occasionally kids end up looking nothing like their parents.
This was the case recently, when a woman gave birth to her first little one.
She welcomed a baby girl into the world and was thrilled, but when the child was born, she says the father took one look at the infant and walked out on them both.
In a post on Reddit, the unnamed mum explained that their daughter was born with “very dark skin” and because of this her husband didn’t believe the baby was his, as he’s white.
The, woman, who describes herself as being “half white”, says her husband instantly accused her of having an affair but she was adamant she had been completely faithful throughout their marriage.
Writing on the Am I The A**hole forum, she said: “I gave birth to my daughter six months ago and it should’ve been the happiest moment in my life.
“When my daughter was born her skin was very dark and looked like she could have two biological parents who were of African descendent. My husband Jim, (fake name), was furious and accused me of cheating and left right then and there. He told everyone on both sides of the family what happened, made posts on social media and wanted a divorce.
“His family and a lot of our friends all called to say how upset they were at me and called me really nasty names. My mother was by my side the entire time and I kept professing my innocence.”
She continued to explain how her husband refused to pick her up when she was discharged from hospital and he threw her out of their house, so she and the baby were forced to move in with her parents.
The woman continued: “When my sister called to ask for the baby stuff Jim text me pictures of the bare nursery room and said he got rid of everything.
“Weeks went by and Jim refused to speak to me directly and has never once asked about our child.”
Eventually her husband agreed to do a paternity test and the results showed that she had been telling the truth.
No one believed the results so she claims they took a second test, which revealed Jim really was the little girl’s dad.
“Around that same time one of Jim’s cousins did the Ancestry thing and there was around 30% of African ancestry in the family,” she explained.
This new information prompted Jim’s great-grandmother to admit that she’d had an affair before Jim’s grandfather was born.
So much family drama!
After the truth was finally exposed, the mum says Jim began begging for a second chance, but she isn’t sure she can forgive him.
She added: “Jim has been reaching out and everyone has come to apologize, and while it did feel good to feel vindicated the damage has been done. I can’t unhear or unsee all the horrible things that was said and done. Not just to me but to my child as well.
“Jim made some very racist remarks. Things that I thought he’d never say and he did it so easily. Regardless of what our daughter looks like I don’t want her to be around that. What else will Jim and his family say or do the next time they get mad? How are they going to treat our daughter when she does something that upsets them?”
More than 3,000 people replied to the Reddit post, sharing their thoughts on the situation.
One person commented: “Regardless of who was right or wrong – he handled the situation horribly. If he really loved you – or was a good person… he would have just asked for a paternity test from the beginning. Instead he destroyed your things, etc.
“This makes it very clear how he and his family will react to situations. I’d stay away and not forgive him. Good luck.”
Another said: “Tell him he can see the kid when she gets back everything he destroyed, in its original condition. Oh… that’s not possible? Then that’s too bad. He gets to sleep in the bed he made.”
A third wrote: “I would have filed for divorce the minute the paternity tests results were in. Not only did her husband accuse her of cheating, he illegally kicked her out, making her homeless with a newborn, destroyed the nursery, said all kinds of racist things, and told his family and they got in on abusing her too.”